Written by Sean McPheat | 

We train hundreds of sales managers and leaders on our Sales Management Training programme every year. When we ask them how they motivate their sales teams, we often here similar stories of how they build up morale and get their teams thinking about growing and advancing in their sales prowess.
But we sometimes ask them what they would NEVER say and what would be the implications if they did.
It gets them thinking, and a quick poll has come up with some of the things that they would shy away from.
See if you have ever caught yourself saying any of these phrases, or anything like them:
âThatâs Not My Problemâ
You might not think it is but saying so abdicates any responsibility you may think you have and kills off any respect your team may have for you.
It also makes the other person feel like a victim and thatâs never good for morale.
âWeâve Always Done It That Wayâ
You may have done, but things may have changed in the last year or ten.
Youâre basically saying that everything is OK the way it is, and change is just something that happens to everyone else.
âYouâre Wrongâ
That may be the case, but it doesnât mean the person has to have their nose rubbed in it.
You destroy peopleâs ability to decide for themselves and their self-worth and self-esteem goes through the floor.
âYou Should Haveâ
Yes, but they didnât, did they?
Telling someone what they should have done in the past doesnât mean anything, because thereâs nothing, they can do about it now.
You can âshouldâ all over them, but it wonât make one iota of difference in the future.
âI Know You Did Your Best, Butâ
This tells them that no matter what they try, nothing will be good enough.
Theyâve tried their best and not been successful.
What does that tell them about their competence, and how does it impact their confidence?
âI Havenât Had Timeâ
Youâre basically saying that what was important to someone else wasnât important to you.
Youâve blown all credibility with the other person and made out that your tasks are more important than thereâs.
Even if you havenât had time, it doesnât help if you use it as an excuse.
âJust Do What I Say Will Youâ
Your team probably donât understand what is being asked of them and they certainly lack the buy-in to get it done. What would have been better is to communicate the importance of what is being asked and to talk about the consequences of not getting it done.
âWhy Didnât You Complete This?â
Using the word âWhyâ makes it feel like the salesperson must defend themselves. Itâs an accusatory term to use as though you are guilty until proved innocent. Using âHowâ is a lot softer and youâll most likely get a much more positive response.
âGood Jobâ
You might be puzzled as to why this is included in phrases not to be used but on its own it doesnât really improve or achieve a great deal. After all, everyone is at work to do a good job. Itâs much better if you are specific when giving feedback like this.
For example any good sales manager would say: âYou did a good job in handling that challenging call earlier. You showed real determination and patience all throughoutâ
âLisa Would Have Closed That Businessâ
Never make comparisons to others. It achieves nothing and Lisa didnât close anything because she never had the lead! It doesnât really motivate anyone, and it only shames the person.
âDonât Worry, Iâll Do It Myselfâ
Said in the wrong tonality (if there is a right one that is) you will make your sales team feel guilty for putting extra burden on you. It will also send the message that you know best, and they are not capable of completing the task.
âThatâs Your Problemâ
How to alienate your team and make them feel all alone! Your teamâs problems are your problems. Thereâs a say âIf you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go togetherâ Thatâs so true with this. Donât shun accountability, share it.
âI Donât Have The Capacityâ
What this really means is that every single other thing is a priority, and your request does not count. What would be better is an explanation of why you are time poor right not and when would be a good time to cover things off. Itâs easily done.
âLeave Your Personal Life At The Doorâ
The message that you are sending out here is that you donât care. If youâre not supportive then it can impact their mental health, well-being, and their performance. Sales is a stressful occupation as it is without an unsupportive boss. A quick âIs everything okay?â is all it takes to start a conversation around it and is what most sales managers would do.
How many times do you think you might have inadvertently used any of these phrases or similar ones?
Be aware of the impression they may have on others and try to think through the repercussions of them if you do use any of them.
Words can be very powerful. They can turn others on or off like a light switch, so you need to be careful on the ones that you choose to use.
The Sales Managerâs Guidebook is a comprehensive free guide that can help you to improve your sales management skills. Itâs split out into 3 volumes covering sales planning and sales target setting, how to lead and motivate your sales team and how to manage their sales performance. Please check it out. Itâs free to download and thousands of sales professionals from all over the world have benefited from it.
If youâre ever looking for some Sales Training then please check out our Sales Training Courses.
Happy Selling!
Sean

Sean McPheat
Managing Director
MTD Sales Training

Updated on: 1 November, 2017
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