Written by Sean McPheat | 

Whatâs interesting about us humans is the fact that, even though we donât like to admit it, we are judgemental beings.
Often, we donât view ourselves as being judgemental; we consider ourselves to be realists.
A situation occurs and we decide whether it is right or wrong, good, or bad, black or white.
Where do those ideas come from?
From our programming and conditioning, thatâs where.
We are conditioned to identify what we consider to be right based on our experiences, our values, our standards, and our rules.
Every other person on the planet has had different experiences from you, and so will have different values, different beliefs and, hence, different judgements.
For instance, when you say, âYou shouldnât do that!â you are coming from your own judgements and rationale.
Youâre weighing up the situation, determining what you would do in a similar spot and then balance up whether what is done instead lives up to your standards or rules.
Itâs natural.
Itâs human. Itâs us being us.
So, are there some things that salespeople should never say?
Isnât that being judgemental just asking the question?
Well, in a way, yes.
However, when you see the ideas below, you will probably agree these are things that shouldnât be said because clients and prospects will probably judge us negatively if we did.
And thatâs the main reason.
Not because we consider them to be right, but because most of our clients would say they are wrong.
Letâs face it, all clients use judgement to determine if the like you, believe you, have confidence in you and trust you.
What you need to do is to lower the resistance by shying away from phrases or words that will cause judgements to rise up in the first place.
Letâs look at some of the thingâs salespeople should never find coming out of their mouths:
âTrust me!â
Really? Do you need to tell me that? Your words are worthless if you donât prove trustworthy.
Itâs pointless asking someone to trust you if you havenât given them reasons to do so.
Demonstrate you are trustworthy; donât tell them. âTrust meâ is not a term you would hear any of my trainers use if you attended any selling skills training with us. We do not recommend it.
âHow are you today?â
After opening a cold call.
Please!
Leave that to the slimy, smarmy toothy-grinned salespeople of yester-year, who thought that it built rapport with a stranger.
These days it screams out the message âI AM GOING TO SELL YOU SOMETHING!â
âWhat will it take to earn your business?â
ErrâŠgive me a free sample?
This antiquated question lost its power when the first transaction took place in Antique-Land.
It puts so much pressure on the prospect because itâs asking them to do all the work.
They must think about what âdealâ they would take.
Instead, you should be building the value so that the prospect sees that accepting your offer is the best thing to do for them and/or their business.
âThis is a limited offerâ
Yeah right!
This smacks of all those furniture store closing-down offers, only to spring back, phoenix-like, from the ashes of despair, making customers feel cheated. Weâd never cover these tactics on our Retail Sales Training.
If it really is a limited offer, build value first before you discuss price.
Limited offers come and goâŠthey donât have the impact they may have had in the 20th century (such a long time ago!).
âI give you my wordâ
Hah! The cheese monster rises from his lair again.
Another is âMy word is my bondâ.
If you have to say these sentences, you are thinking words have a greater effect on people than deeds.
Prospects want to know WHY they should trust you. Just saying it doesnât make it right or true.
âWhat do you think?â
Eh? Surely thereâs nothing wrong with this one?
After all, isnât asking for the opinion of the prospect a good way of discovering their needs and wants.
Yes, of course, but this isnât the way to do it.
The question creates logical triggers.
Itâs better to ask how the person feels about the situation.
Thinking is rational, left-brained in its drivers.
âHow do you feel about this?â gets the person to go deeper into their thought patterns and connects to the emotional decision-making process.
âLet me be honest with you!â
What? You mean you werenât being honest before?
I know that seems far-fetched, but the subliminal message that gets through is that everything Iâve said up to now is questionableâŠI am going to be honest with you from now on!
Successful people donât say these phrases because they donât want to give the other person even a glimmer of a reason to doubt them or question their professionalism.
Think things through before you say things that might cause you to regret it afterwards.
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Happy Selling!
Sean

Sean McPheat
Managing Director
MTD Sales Training
Updated on: 26 March, 2018
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